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Some only swing with their own friends, kind of a closed circle sort of thing. Then again, there ARE other swinging couples looking for dates…but locating these mysterious sexy strangers is a challenge. Here we look at the top 11 best swinger sites for finding open-minded people!

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You order a bottle of wine, wait for your appetizers and flirt with one another seductively under the table. After the meal is complete, you head to a bar where you meet another attractive couple. As you both chat and catch-up, the conversation turns a bit R-rated.

While it requires an active participation from both you and your partner, when there is consent going in each direction, you can explore, engage and learn so much more about your sexual preferences and desires by sleeping with other people. Just as Geter explained above, swinging is a form of polyamory where your sexual inhibitions extend way past the bedroom and from your committed partner and include bouts of sexual play with other willing partners. Sex expert, psychologist and author, Dr. She introduces them to a group of experienced swingers and walk them through their very first experience.

Although she leave before the real fun goes down, she returns the morning after to check in and support them through a debriefing. With her vast experience talking to swinging couples, she says that there is no universal definition of "swinging" because each couple sets their own rules.

However, it is different from polyamory. Some basic terminology to remember include:. Taking it slow in the beginning will help you figure out firsthand if this type of relationship will work for you and your partner.

Not every couple is going to be up. Swinging can also involve partner-only play or group sexual activity, like an orgy. When you want to learn how to cook, you take a class. When you want to get involved with your local politics, you might an interest group to rally together. In addition to the obvious fun of being able to sleep with more than one person at a time and have it be an approved practice with the person you love, there are other big benefits of having a swinging lifestyle.

As the experts note, adventuring into an unknown practice might awaken your fantasies and improve your sex life, but before you get started, make sure everyone is ready to take on the challenge of something new. Here are some important, sexy benefits:. Keeping in mind that swingers have rules for the relationship or self. This skill can also transfer into other relationships including friendships or work relationships. Typically during a swinging agreement, it is two couples agreeing to swap partners.

But the person you go home with? Your girlfriend or wife. You both want to ensure the other feel safe and is enjoying themselves.

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For instance, if one partner or participant reports a hard limit, or an activity off-limits, then other partners will not engage in that activity. Instead, conversation may occur to understand what that person needs to feel comfortable and self-care. One of the greatest benefits of an open-type of relationship is that you no longer have to have all of your needs met by one single person. Not only is the swinging sex fun, but it can actually improve your sex life with your partner in between swap sessions.

This not only improves your sex life, but builds your chemistry and intimacy, too.

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Many of the couples I work with report that they feel closer to their partner after a consensually non-monogamous encounter. She also notes that for some couples who decide to give swinging a try, finding likeminded couples might be a barrier. After all, you must seek a twosome that both you and your girlfriend find attractive enough to sleep with.

Swinging is very much like dating, where communication occurs to assess if we go to the next step. I also suggest seeking support from a trained professional such as a sex therapist to explore your interest in swinging and how to create conversation with your partner.

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A sex therapist can help you explore if your interest will be a healthy addition to your relationship and if there are other factors needing to be addressed before opening the relationship. Be prepared that your partner may take this personal or that you are not satisfied with the sexual relationship.

Having the skills to articulate and communicate your desires without creating blame is important. Show your partner the research you've done and what you've learned about yourself. Once there is an agreement to open the relationship, creating a set of rules to follow is key. This builds trust, respect, and boundaries. It also shows unity in the relationship.

Remember that your rules can always be adjusted as needed. The plan is never a final plan. In fact, I strongly recommend that all plans are reviewed on a regular basis whether it is once a month, two times a year, once a year, etc. This is based on your own unique relationship. Search AskMen Search.

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